While most others hang out with friends, a large number of people would sit home by themselves.
Not shyness, but social anxiety or social fear keeps them indoors.
This stems from the fear of interaction with others, thanks to being negatively self-conscious.
They tend to avoid socializing that trigger anxiety.
Engage in acts of kindness that could ease the fear, experts suggest. As a result, lonely people could mingle more easily with others.
Escaping from socializing gives them a sense of protection from angst and possible embarrassment.
They miss several things that good friendships could offer--- for example, the support and intimacy from others.
Left with no or fewer friends, they would feel insecure when interacting with others, and often do not have emotional intimacy even in close relationships.
Helping others could increase their happiness and are likely to have positive interactions and perceptions of the world at large, suggest Canadian researchers Jennifer Trew of Simon Fraser University and Lynn Alden of the University of British Columbia.
The study investigated if over time, kindness could change the level of social anxiety they experience, and thus help them engage more easily, reports say.
The researchers divided 115 undergraduate students, who experienced high levels of social anxiety, into three groups for a four-week study.
Where one group engaged in acts of kindness like doing a roommate's dishes, mowing a neighbour's lawn, or donating to a charity, the second group had very limited social interactions, and the third group simply recorded each day’s happenings.
Eventually, the study found that the group that engaged in charity works had an overall reduction in social anxiety.
If you are lonely, always try to help others. Perhaps that is better than idle prattle of others.