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Mother: the sunshine that lights the day

Mother: the sunshine that lights the day

Because I feel that, in the Heavens above,

The angels, whispering to one another,

Can find, among their burning terms of love,

None so devotional as that of ‘Mother’

(Edgar Allan Poe in 'To My Mother').

A mother’s love and tenderness are the greatest of all the special joys in life. The tradition of celebrating Mother’s Day began as mothers' supporting world peace, but over time it has become a celebration of the hard work that mothers do every day in our lives. It is an occasion to honour and celebrate the beautiful and unparalleled bond shared between children and mothers. The undying love and selfless sacrifices of mothers are returned with respectful treatment offered to them on this Day.

The origins of Mother’s Day are attributed to Anna Jarvis, an American woman who introduced the concept by arranging a private Mother’s Day celebration in memory of her mother, Ann Jarvis, on May 10, 1908, in Grafton, West Virginia. Her mother was a role model and was instrumental in organizing “Mother’s Day Work Clubs” in the area where she lived to improve the health and hygiene of the local inhabitants.

The celebration was arranged by Anna Jarvis on her mother’s death anniversary day. It was unique and novel as it was a thanksgiving service of worship held at Andrews Methodist Episcopal Church, in Grafton, West Virginia. The ceremony was attended by 407 children and their mothers. They selected her mother’s favourite flower, the white carnation, as the day’s official emblem. Since then, it has become a popular observance across the globe and among different societies and traditions. The church where the ceremony was held has now become the International Mother’s Day Shrine and is designated as a historic landmark in the United States.

Mother’s Day is much more than an occasion to exchange cards or gifts; it is a moment to acknowledge mother’s role as a walking miracle. The influence of a mother in the lives of her children is beyond calculation. She is the first friend, the best friend and the friend forever. Oliver Wendell Holmes, an American poet once said: “Youth fades; love droops; the leaves of friendship fall; a mother’s secret hope outlives them all”.

The expression, the Mother, is the most beautiful word on the lips of mankind. Mothers’ love is unmatched. They hold their children’s hands for a short while, but their hearts forever. Clothed with dignity and strength, a mother’s smiles are without fear of the future, her words are wise and instructions gentle and kind. There is no velvet as soft as a mother’s lap, no rose as lovely as her smile, no path as flowery as that imprinted with her footsteps.

Always right

Mothers are always right and tell the truth. They are our root, our foundation. They plant the seed that base our life on and from that we gain the ability to achieve in our life. They possess a power beyond that of a king on his throne. Abraham Lincoln graciously admitted the role that his illustrious mother had in his life, “All that I am, or ever hope to be, I owe to my angel Mother”.

The role of a mother is beyond the idea of a nurturer and caretaker. However, with the changing times and prejudices imposed by society, their problems have become a reigning public issue. She is expected to be perfect all the time. At times, there appears a rift within her between passion and obligation, her priorities are questioned and she hardly gets any time for 'self'. Seldom is it realized that they too have individuality, dreams and ambitions.

Dignity of motherhood

Motherhood and the right to dignity as a mother have to be protected by the society and State. Human dignity is a constitutional value and constitutional right. The state and its agencies cannot discriminate against a woman on account of her compelling family caregiving responsibilities. No rule or regulation can stand in the way of recognizing their rights.

Our culture, tradition, civilization and practices venerate motherhood. The Constitution of India proclaims and protects the status, dignity and self-respect of motherhood. Dignity as a right available to a mother was explained by the Indian Supreme Court in C.B.Muthamma (1979), Air India(1981), and Suchitra Sreevastava (2009) cases, to name but a few. In Gita Hariharan (1999), the apex court elevated the mother to an equal position as the father, bolstering her right as a natural guardian of the minor child under Section 6 of the Hindu Minority and Adoption Act, 1956.

The problems faced by working mothers need a systematic evaluation from a humanistic perspective. The inconvenience of the employer is not an excuse against the claim for the protection of her rights. The employer should recognize this and protect her personhood as a mother. She cannot be compelled to surrender motherhood for fear of loss of employment. The mother’s role in taking care of the child is indeed an honour and she enjoys a separate status because of her position in respect of the child. Respecting motherhood, therefore, means respecting womanhood and childhood.

Mother of civilization

Family is a social institution and it is the first model of political society. Women constitute the centre of the family. Mother is the ‘light’ of the family. This means that the power of motherhood should be recognized. Motherhood is not just birthing but involves the process of nurturance. Mothers have been projected as Goddesses in all cultures.

Mother’s body is seen as a national identity and mother is invoked as the metaphor for the nation. Mahatma Gandhi openly expressed in a letter addressed to Dr Julian Huxley, Director General of UNESCO in May 1947 the role played by his illiterate but wise mother who taught him that all rights to be deserved and preserved came from duty well done. It is rather unfortunate that motherhood happens to be interrogated many a time.

Distressed single mothers

If a woman feels that she is nothing without the support of the man, blame the system, as it points to the failure of the system. This occasion takes us to have retrospection on the miserable and pitiable conditions faced by single mothers living in distressed states. It is high time for the Government to evolve welfare schemes to support single mothers.

In a country where the people worship goddesses, in the land where people have been taught about women and share the belief that gods abide where women are worshipped and all actions go futile where they are dishonoured, it is rather strange that our society perceives and treats single mothers quite differently.

Often they are deprived of financial and other social support and forced to live in isolation, despair, and sub-human conditions with emotional challenges haunting them. The anomie faced by single mothers is the hurdle created by society.

Changing family dynamics

The strength of motherhood at times is greater than natural laws. She is the first teacher and the heartbeat in the home. It is said the best place to cry is in a mother’s arms. Changing family dynamics show reluctance in accepting mother’s rights as human rights.

Commenting on the key role played by mothers to change social norms regarding masculinity, the Office of the High Commissioner for Human Rights (UDHR) of the United Nations Organization stated: “Gender equality and the elimination of discrimination against women begins in the home, in the family. Social cohesion and gender equality start with the transmission of fundamental values upon which human beings construct themselves. And mothers are best placed for the transmission of equality values to their children, already at a very young age”.

Mothers must be heard and respected, informed and supported. Then they become key partners and change makers. They are resources for society, vectors of culture, values and education thereby becoming the link to future generations.

Article 25 of the UDHR states that motherhood and childhood are entitled to special care and assistance. Identical protective provision is seen engrafted in ILO’s Maternity Protection Convention. Improving maternal health was part of the Millennium Development Goals. The International Covenant on Civil and Political Rights (ICCPR), International Covenant on Economic, Social and Cultural Rights (ICESCR), Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination against Women, and Convention on the Rights of the Child also contain provisions to ensure appropriate pre-natal and post-natal care for mothers.

Rights-bearing citizens

Mothers are rights-bearing citizens. They will never gain full dignity until their human rights are respected and protected. We must acknowledge them as humans, born free and equal in dignity and rights, with a chance to exercise their infinitely varied gifts in infinitely varied ways.

Though they are the primary caretakers for children and the elderly, much of their work is not noticed and valued - not by economists, historians, popular culture and government leaders, but within the home. Their roles are perceived as just limited to childbearing and rearing, and work-life balance. There is thus the need for a new political discourse calling for mothers’ human rights.

(Dr Pauly Mathew Muricken is a lawyer and writer based in Kochi)

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